Dear Hayley,

I'm a few months away from being 18 and fairly self sufficient at this point. I finished high school early and have been working a couple jobs and saving my money while deciding what I want to do. I have a single dad and I'm grateful for him but he's too over protective. I have a curfew of 10 p.m. and I'm not allowed to stay overnight with friends. I feel I should be given more freedoms since I'll be 18 so soon and out of the house but I don't know how to bring it up. But I feel like I'm too old for him to be so strict now. What's the best way to approach this?

-Teen Girl Treated Like Pre-Teen

Dear Teen Girl,

I think the best way to handle this would be sitting down and talking to him calmly. Thank him for the life he's helped you build up to this point and looking out for you to make sure you're safe. Just let him know how you feel though express that you'd like a later curfew and be allowed to stay over night at friends houses and that you feel you are responsible enough to make smart choices while being given a little more freedom. It never hurts to ask and discuss but know before hand it's still possible he will say no. If so just remember how close you are to 18 and that you've handled it well up to this point and at 18 you can choose to live on your own. A few more months wouldn't be the end of the world though it would be frustrating no doubt. Start looking for a place to move into when you are old enough if the conversation doesn't go how you want it to. At the very least it will show him you have a level head if you handle it the right way. Good luck and best wishes.


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